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Do you want to learn how to thrive in your relationships? 

Secure attachment is the healthiest of the four attachment styles!

“The closer I want to be, the more I fear you and want to run away”

Navigating adult relationships with a disorganized attachment style can feel like an emotional combat zone.

“The closer I want to be, the more I fear you and want to run away”

Those who relate to this type of attachment style most likely received mixed messages from their primary caregivers:  “come close, but go away”.

When you’re in a new relationship are you already looking for an exit strategy? 

If so, you may have an avoidant attachment style.

“If they really loved me, they would have…,” or “they’re going to leave me.” 

Anxious attachment is developed when someone doesn’t receive consistent love and care throughout childhood.

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was emotionally unavailable or emotionally exhausting? 

After one or two failed relationships self doubt starts to set in and people start to ask themselves “is there something wrong with me?” 

Assertiveness: The only strategy that allows us and others to be fully and authentically engaged in a relationship 

Have you taken the time to read the other blog posts in this series? 

I’ll wait… 😉 

Have you ever heard the expression: a wolf in sheep’s clothing? How about a lion with a headband on? This expression describes something that is harmful that looks deceivingly innocent.

At the core of the aggressive communication style is the desire to get what you want at any cost. This could mean the cost of others, and the cost of our personal relationships. 

When we have a passive communication style, we have been conditioned to believe that it is best to keep what we think, feel and need to ourselves. This drive is motivated by a strong fear of rejection and abandonment.