The world can often feel like a very scary place. When you consider some of the heartache and turmoil that families faces on a regular basis (violence, abuse, alcoholism, illness, loss, just to name a few) it can feel as though life is full of despair and hopelessness.
Despite the dark realities of life for many of the individuals and families I work with, I continue to be amazed at their ability to rise above tragic circumstances and find hope, courage and gratitude in the everyday. I am continually amazed by the capacity of the human spirit to rise above the rubble of life and soar. I’ve asked myself, what do these everyday heroes (my clients) have in common? Resilience.
I believe it is resilience that allows the human spirit to soar, despite a world that makes us no promises. I hear horrendous stories of abuse, violence, trauma and loss everyday in my practice. I have personally experienced the pain of helplessness in my own life. It is an awful place to be. I am asked over and over again by friends, how do you do it? How do you listen to such awful stories about the human experience day in and day out? Great questions, after all, I am only human and these stories are real. My strategy? I hear the pain, but I listen for the resilience. Can I share a secret with you? If you listen long enough, there are always, always, always, small acts of resilience within every story of brokenness. Always.
What Does Resilience Look Like?
- Practicing self care, even when you don’t feel like it
- Sharing your pain with someone else, even though you are afraid
- Reaching out for support, even though you feel helpless
- Accepting support, even though your friend can’t change the situation
- Getting up the next morning, even though it still hurts like hell
- Asking for help, even though you feel like a failure
- Showing your imperfections, even though you feel exposed
- Putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward, slowly
The Real Heroes
I have come to understand and experience the world as unpredictable at times and yet, I see individuals standing firm and even moving forward in the chaos. The real heroes are not the ones whose lives are perfect. The real heroes are the ones who’s lives are perfected in trials.
I am grateful to my clients. Firstly, for the incredible privilege of allowing me into the sacredness of their pain and trusting me to journey with them. Next, for showing me that a resilient spirit, characterized by hope, courage and gratitude is not only possible, but also absolutely healing. Thank you for inspiring me to rise up and soar above the rubble. I am eternally grateful for the stories of everyday resilience.